Friday, February 22, 2013

The "Losing It" Contest

When I entered carrying my travel bag, it was already foggy with cigarette smoke with a tired yellow bulb glowing in the middle of the room. Immediately the smoke watered my eyes and led me to a coughing spell. My course mate, then, offered me the poison stick and I accepted it readily to try it out. Among the three of us, I was a non - smoker. And I became a smoker from that instance for next 11 years.

During NDA(National Defence Academy) days, smoking is a sin. If one gets caught, then only God can save him. Our course was out on a three day tour to some training establishment, when I first got introduced to smoking. It was sometime in 2001(guys are generally not great at remembering dates) when I started smoking and I continued with full vigor till June 2012.

Though in Academy, we are quite fit and athletic, I could feel the difference smoking did to me in that three day visit. But our human body is a wonderful machine and gets adjusted to the nonsense we feed it day in and day out. In NDA, my consumption was limited to only a couple of cigarettes in a week. I thought I was not addicted. But I was wrong. I was hooked on big time. I realised it whenever I used to be home on term breaks. And I kept smoking with vengeance and once got caught in IMA(Indian Military Academy). I paid for it heavily by earning extra punishment runs in the evening in battle gear and many more things I prefer not to disclose on this post. But it did not deter me from not smoking. Instead I became more careful in not getting caught.

I was young and my body could cope up despite of the poison. I am a fitness freak and had a self devised philosophy that the amount of exercise I do is more than enough to negate the ill effects of smoking. I was wrong. As years passed by, I became a heavy smoker i.e smoking around 3 packs a day. I had hand shivering, increased migraine attacks, dull skin texture, dark circles etc etc. Though I was fit but smoking was destroying me slowly. My scuba diving instructor once told me that I am going to, maybe, invent a technique to even smoke underwater!

I had tried to quit smoking at two separate occasions but failed miserably. My wife detested me whenever I smoked. My colleague, a Sikh officer, and I used to share a common office in Bikaner. He got tired of telling me to not smoke and finally said that he's going to die of lung cancer instead of me. I was ashamed but I was into the terrible clutches of this deadly drug. The Sikh officer told me once that the song 'Hotel California' by Eagles is for the guys like me and those who are into heavier stuff. In the last stanza, the song goes like "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

So, when I got transferred to Hyderabad, I thought that enough of the nicotine slavery. I am going to kick this habit in the butt. I am going to be a free man and lead a healthy, smoke free life, at least for the sake of my wife and kid. Then I stumbled upon this really great book of Allen Carr, Easyway to Stop Smoking. This book delivered what it claimed. I stopped the moment I finished the  book. It's now more than 8 months that I am smoke free. This book works in the following way -

1. First and foremost, the author removes the fear of staying smoke free. Nicotine withdrawal is not painful. Infact, the times our mind says it needs a smoke is just psychological. The book works by removing the fear of not smoking.

2. Secondly, techniques of leaving smoking like the will power method, nicotine patches, chewing gums, e - cigarettes, gradual reduction etc are all bogus. They don't work as they don't remove the fear and sooner or later, the person returns on his knees to this dreadful habit.

3. Visualizing the end result i.e being healthy, richer, cleaner help in boosting the confidence to kick this habit.  The power of visualization is very strong.

4. The book says there is nothing like only one drag or one cigarette. Only one drag is enough to start the whole chain of smoking again and again.

5. It says that have pity on people you see smoking. Think how they are throwing their lives away and how they are inhaling the cancerous smoke. Sympathize with them and try to help them get free.

6. Whenever the withdrawal pang hits you, think that the poison is leaving the body. It makes the withdrawal phase enjoyable.

7. Lastly, does a smoker let his kids smoke if he says that he enjoys the stick? Smoking is not pleasurable. It kills the pleasure and makes the person more miserable.

After kicking this habit, within weeks I could feel the difference. I was a new man. I, even, decided to train for a marathon and ran it in August 2012. It is such a pleasure not to be controlled by nicotine. I have written extensively about this subject in the following posts-
Stop Smoking In A Easyway
Non Smoker's Diary, Part 1
Non Smoker's Diary, Part 2

This contest gave me an opportunity to share my story and the journey to no smoking with my readers. Hope you all like it and do participate to win Prachi's book - Losing it. Till then stay happy and keep exercising.


Sunday, February 3, 2013

Liebster Blog Award

First of all, a big thanks to Medha Kapoor, author of The Girl Who Looked For Rainbows (http://medhakapoor.blogspot.in), nominating me for Liebster Blog Award. "Liebster" is German for "favourite". Nominating me for this award means that my blog is one of Medha's favourite. I really appreciate the gesture, Medha.

Now what is this Liebster Blog Award?
Though the origin of this award is unclear, however, this award is given to upcoming bloggers, with less than 200 followers, who have shown some promise and hope to keep visitors engrossed in interesting posts in future. It is an show of appreciation by fellow bloggers. In other words, I scratch your back and you scratch mine or someone else's back. It's a scratch nevertheless. In turn the nominees have to do the following:-
1. Write 11 random things about yourself.
2. Answer 11 questions thrown by the nominator.
3. Throw 11 questions to the next 11 nominees.

Let's get the above done. 11 random things about myself.

1. I hate crowded places. Lonely mountain top or a secluded beach is for me.
2. Smallest fingers of my legs or small toe are too small. Looks kind of funny on size 10 feet.
3. I am a very early riser and love it. I start falling all over the place after 11 at night. My wife hates me for this.
4. I love reading ranging from murder mysteries, thrillers, biographies, self help and fitness. Though I am bored to death reading philosophical books.
5. I love Budweiser. It's truly the king of beers.
6. Ideal vacation for me? Scuba diving in Andamans or Goa. Though I had this type vacation thrice in last 5 years but don't seem to have enough of it.
7. I am an tea addict.
8. I hate when people burp in public especially the smelly ones which smells like smelly farts. I can still tolerate the noisy ones. Bdw I also love to burp but in private. It's such a nice feeling.
9. Fitness freak.
10. I love going for long drives with my wife, kid and dog.
11. I used to do pencil sketching. Last time I did it when I was in Siachen. I do it only when I have got nothing else to do.

11 questions by Medha.

1. What's your favourite colour?
Answer. Blue. Since a small kid, we had been taught that boys wear blue and girls, pink. I guess I am still stuck with that.

2. What's your favourite cuisine?
Answer. Except South Indian food, I can manage anything. No offence to the down south people.It's just a personal choice.

3. What are you most afraid of?
Answer. Confined spaces. I love freedom of anything.

4. How religious/spiritual are you?
Answer. I am an atheist. I don't agree to idol worshiping and man made concepts of castes. They are all just a waste of time for me. I believe in myself.

5. Are you a feminist?
Answer. I am. I despise men who take women for granted. My marriage has been a great instrument in understanding the power of women.

6. What are your views on same sex marriage?
Answer. It's a free world and we are not slaves. Do whatever which makes you happy, except being violent and a threat to society. Same sex marriage is a personal choice and people are old enough to decide for themselves. Even the law is with them now. Yeah, it's okay to do it.

7. What is your favourite odor?
Answer. Hmm, there are many. I guess the best would be the odor of rain soaked earth. Nothing can beat that.

8. What music do you listen to when you are alone?
Answer. I used to be a rock and heavy metal fan back in NDA days. But nowadays it's just popular bollywood music. Not a big music fan.

9. What do you like to do on your birthday?
Answer. Well, I scuba dived in Havlock with sharks on my last birthday. It was awesome. I guess I would like to something adventurous or exciting on my birthdays.

10. What is your favourite genre when it comes to reading?
Answer. I like thrillers and murder mysteries. Last two novels I read were Bankster by Ravi Subramanium and Tyrannosaur Canyon by Douglas Preston.

11.  What is favourite genre when it comes to blogging?
Answer. Health and fitness.

Whew! the questions sure did take a lot of time to answer. Now, the 11 nominees for the Liebster Blog Award are -

Subhorup Dasgupta http://subhorup.blogspot.in/
Jennifer http://viewfromalongrun.blogspot.in/
Medha Kapoor http://medhakapoor.blogspot.in
Ghazala Hossain http://a-blind-date.blogspot.in/
Anupam Patra http://anupampatracontemplates.blogspot.in/
Naddy http://naddy26feb.blogspot.in/
Sabyasachi Patra http://www.indiawilds.com/diary/
Dhruva http://www.mutual-funds-india.com/
Sohini http://thefreaksconfessions.blogspot.in/
Akanksha Dureja http://www.akankshadureja.com/
Renu Sethi http://day-to-daystories.blogspot.in/

And now the questions to them.

1. What's your favourite book?
2. Who's your favourite author?
3. Which is your most embarrassing moment?
4. Any peculiar habit?
5. Are you a morning or late night person?
6. Dream vocation?
7. Which's your favourite movie?
8. What's your writing inspiration?
9. Do you exercise?
10. Hiking or long drive?
11. Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?